The word on my mind that prompted me to write this post is competition.
During my morning conversation with my mom, she was sharing an experience a family friend who is dealing with the consequences of someone else’s sense of inner competition. It is affecting their health, job performance and job satisfaction. This made think of some situations where I have experienced competition in my surrounding space as of late. What I can say is that I believe that there is a time and space for competition and then there is not.
Growing up, I was not always a fan of playing competitive sports. I guess I have always felt an inner sense of community and desire for “ensemble” work. My mother used to make statements about what other people my age were doing and I would politely say, I don’t need to be compared to them. I don’t think she was doing it to compare me, but more to just inspire me to do different things, that she already knew I could do, if I put my mind to it. Now a days when she shares great things other people do, I immediately try to congratulate them, share what they have done and see how I can be inspired from what they did.
When people get inspired from something I do, it means that I did something spectacular to them (from my lens.) When I see people use my examples, I am truly flattered and motivated to continue doing what I do. For example, my niece and nephews will occasionally correct people’s general response of “good” to the question “How are you doing?” They see the validity in truly caring for how people are doing. I am so proud to know that I planted that seed and they are the fruit that are replanting I over and over.
Challenge of the Week: When you feel you are in competition with someone, take a step back and see how you can get inspiration from your “competitor.”