In the process of me doing the “Get in Gear For the New Year” challenge with Bonnie Gillespie, I said 2018 was going to be a year when I was unapologetic. Well, I have already sent out several emails where I know I used the word “apologize” I wonder if what I am apologizing for in those emails is fair in this supposed to be unapologetic year. Maybe I am being too literal. Maybe I need to be unapologetic in how I approach my career pursuit of being an actor.
I feel like sometimes people feel too big to apologize to people. I don’t want to go around my whole life apologizing, but I think there needs to be a balance in when you apologize to people. I don’t want to go around my whole life apologizing, but I think there needs to be a balance in when you apologize and when you are asking for permission. I have never been keen on asking for permission, hence why I probably find myself apologizing more than I need or intend to. I wonder if there is a book dealing with how successful people balance apologizing and asking for permission. I don’t like asking for permission because I don’t want to deal with the possible “no” response. Maybe I should do a pro and con chart on whether or not a situation deserves an apology or permission. For example, as an Uber driver sometimes I find myself apologizing to people when me arriving to them in a timely fashion or at the right location is out of my hand. When I am taking them to their destination, I will then ask which way they prefer to go, which is asking for permission. Usually I do this when a customer seems in a hurry and impatient or irate and rude. Maybe its just the way I choose to demonstrate good customer service. There is a book that I think may help me figure out the best balance in this situation, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.”